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Beginner's Guide To Deep throating

I want the world to be a happy, harmonious place. It's not, but I like to think I can help it to be in my own small way. And my own small way is to share with you my small knowledge of how to deep-throat a cock. It may not cure cancer; it may not stop wars or end world hunger or disarm landmines. It may not even pay my rent, but I like to think that sharing my skills can help you and your lover to a happier sex life.

 

Let me offer my gift to you: 9 Steps to Deep-Throating a Cock, Chelsea-Girl Style

 

1) An introduction: Deep-throating is a skill, like parallel parking or fire eating. Unlike either of those skills, however, you really can't hurt yourself or any one else by deep-throating a cock. The thing to remember about deep-throating is that the worse thing that can happen is that you will puke.

Which, ok, puking is gross and it's unpleasant, and it will ruin the mood, but puking is not the worse thing a human can experience. Remember that and you're good to go.

I'm going to take your basic oral skills as a given. What I want to give you is a tutorial strictly intended to help you go places you've never gone before, or more precisely to help your man go places he never has: down your throat.

 

2) Practice makes perfect penetrating: Like any extreme sport, deep-throating is an activity you need to work up to. You can't expect to heli-board the first time out, and you can't expect to just open your mouth and let that cock slam down your throat cold. You will gag and it will be un-fun, and this whole experience is about you and your man having fun. Therefore, you need to understand that it will take a lot of practice and warming up on your part, but I assure you that it's worth it and that your partner really won't mind the time you take.

This skill can take a while to learn. You need your lover to be patient with you. Remind him strenuously if he is not. Feel free to tell him to stick a dildo down his throat and see how it feels if he gives you the fun-reduced flavor of a hard time. Remind him of this: patience is the virtue that will lead you happily down the path to the vice of face-fucking.

Deep-throating is a test of limits. You are willfully and mindfully dismantling a basic human physical function, the gag reflex. It is natural that as you learn this skill that you will feel discomfort, that your eyes will tear, that things will feel frustrating, especially if you've never really thought about mastering your gag reflex before. Therefore, you need to be patient with yourself too.

If you never learn, it's no big. There are lots of fantastic ways to give your lover vast swaths of oral pleasure without him entering your throat. But it's worth trying. I love deep-throating; it makes me hotter and wetter than anything…anything. I urge you to try it out, and as you do, to give yourself to find the pleasure in the discomfort.

 

3) Find the space within: Take a moment and think about your mouth and throat. Now pull the base of your tongue at the back of your throat down, as you would if you were about to yawn. Think about making a big, round cave at the back of your throat as you retract the base of your tongue.

Think about how it feels as your tongue begins to move, how you feel your throat open up, until you can almost feel pressure in your ears. Do it over and over again.

This action, my friend, is how you control your gag reflex.  When you have an object in your mouth and it presses against your soft palate, the movable muscle fibers sheathed in mucous membranes responsible for cutting off passage to the nasal cavity while swallowing, your natural response is to gag. However, if you can learn to create this space at the back of your throat, you are in essence learning to control your gag reflex.

If you're interested in learning how to accept your lover's cock down the back of your throat, the very first thing you need to do is learn how to control these muscles. And that means learning how to find the space within your throat. Practice when you're out of bed. Get accustomed to the feeling, get the muscle memory, and then when you're in bed or on your knees, you'll have it down.

You know, as it were.

 

4) The spit is it: When I'm giving head, I'll begin by any variety of ways—licking the tip of the cock and slowly letting it enter my mouth, avoiding the tip entirely and teasing around the shaft, starting with the taint and working my way up—it really depends on what interests me at the moment. However, I always start deep-throating the same way because my throat, like other parts of my anatomy, needs copious lube to accommodate the length and breadth of my lover's cock.

The good news is this: you can always count on your throat to make its own lube. It's called spit. And as Jenna Jameson has said in her memoirs, when it comes to spit, your gag reflex is your best friend.

Our normal spit is wan, watery, pallid stuff. To deep-throat you need to find that good-quality, high-viscosity, ropy spit. And you will.

I do it by pressing my lover's cock as far as it will just uncomfortably go in my mouth and resting there. I pause for 20-30 seconds, come up for air, lick and suck a little bit, and do it again. After a minute or so of this pressing, I get that really nice, thick, embarrassingly porn-starry spit.

The key to this spitty fount is the phrase “just uncomfortably go.” You want to feel a bit, just a bit, like you're gagging. Your gagging here is a good thing because it creates that lover's spit. If you've ever tried to fuck without proper lube, you know how futile and uncomfortable it is. Your throat, though naturally wet, is no exception to this dry rule. Take all the time you need to get those juices flowing.

No matter what you do, even if you never, ever get to deep-throat completely, this spit step is key because with this spit you can stroke your man with your hands as you suck. Moreover, creating this lubrication will help his cock slide in and out of your mouth with the most pleasurable friction for you both. If you learn nothing else, learn this trick: enter the cock, pause when slightly uncomfortable, let the spit flow, repeat.

 

5) Taking the plunge: Once I've gotten a nice pool of lubrication in my mouth, I'm ready to deep-throat. I should note that even when I'm playing by D/s rules, I make it known to my man that we will each have a much better time if he forces himself gently into my mouth. Once I'm warmed up, he can face fuck me until the cows come home (metaphorically. Literally, I'd find actual cows troubling), but he needs to respect the tender passage of my throat.

Hold the cock in your hand, and with your throat all warmed up by your high-viscosity spit, pull your tongue to the back of your throat to open it to him. Slowly, incrementally, guide him into your throat, thinking about pulling your tongue back and down.

If you feel comfy, pause and see how that feels. If you don't, back off and try again when you feel like it. I find that when I'm ready, I can slide my man's cock down the back of my throat and swallow around it, pulling him more deeply into my throat. I also find that at some point I can open my throat up even further and accommodate more of his phallus, usually until my nose is pressed against his pubic hair, or his testicles, depending on which direction I'm facing. But it takes time, every time, and I don't rush it.

While I'm deep-throating, I imagine what my throat is doing. I concentrate on where the cock is in my mouth and throat, how my throat is adjusting to it, and how I can relax around it. I attribute this practice of visualization to my years of lifting weights and dancing—I feel like if I can see it, I can do it. Therefore, I try to be aware of what it is I'm doing with that cock down my throat, at least until the whole animalistic passion thing raises its shaggy head and then all cognitive process shuts down.

I would urge you to “see” it as you do it. Imagining what you're doing with your throat will help give you a sense of control and a sense of power. Just remember that if you're too uncomfortable, stop. If you're having fun, rock on with your cocksucking. Honey, it's all good.

 

6) Find the angle, Angel: Many women (and men) find it easiest to deep-throat by hanging their head off the bed and having the man stand in front of them, easing the cock into their throats. If it works for you, fine, but the real lesson here is that angle is everything. You can control the angle of the cock by holding it in your hand. I would suggest that until you're entirely comfortable with the act, you take as much control as you need. Your man will be so deeply appreciative of your desire to accommodate him that he'll let you take control, the remote, the contents of his wallet and the keys to his Chevy Malibu.

I can't deep-throat every lover in every position. Some angles are just bad. And it depends a lot on the bend of my lover's cock. Men with very straight cock with very little bend to it are easiest to suck him either on my back with a pillow under my head (which is awesome if he wants to fuck my face), or if I'm on top of him and can use my hand to push his cock into my throat.

Other, more bendy, lovers I've found very good luck in being on all fours doggy-style in front of them as they kneeled before me. Still others worked best if they were standing. It really depends on the size, shape, configuration and angle of the dick to be sucked. Experiment. Find your best position.

Moreover, remember that even if you can't deep-throat in the position you're in, you are still giving your lover pleasure. Deep-throating is not the end-all and be-all in fellatio; it's just one trick in your bag.

 

7) Breathe, Lotus Flower: Deep-throating is not unlike synchronized swimming; you need to learn to time your breaths. Unlike shallow fellatio, deep-throating closes off your breathing through your nose. Therefore, you need to learn how to breathe in and out as you move up and down the shaft. If you do any kind of exercise that controls your breathing—from yoga to swimming—you're already ahead of the game. If you don't, try practising timed breaths on your own. Breathe in, count to five, breathe out. Repeat.

With practice, you'll learn to relax and to time your inhalations and exhalations when you're poised at the apex of the phallus, to employ some polysyllabic lexicon. Just remember that it's just sex, and you can stop doing it whenever you feel like it's not fun anymore.

 

8) Don't be a one-trick pony: Deep-throating is great; I love doing it. It makes me godessy wet, and it makes me satisfied in a workmanlike kind of way. It does not, however, always bring my lovers to orgasm. It's just one of the things I can do in bed. And that means don't feel like just because you've learned to sword-swallow your lover's dick you have to do it until he comes. A lot of time, once my throat has opened up, I use a hand/mouth combo where I stroke my hand in conjunction with my mouth down the shaft of my lover's cock, sweeping my hand down the base of his dick and around his balls with each stroke. I may end the stroke with my nose buried in his pubic hair, but it's not there for very long.

Add your throat to everything else you know and love about cock sucking. You don't have to go hands-free, you don't have to suck cock like a porn star, you don't have to suck it like your mouth is drawing a golfball through a bendy straw. You just need to find things you like to do to your lover that your lover likes. Let yourself play.

Experiment and see what comes up.

 

9) C'mon, c'mon: And now the potentially bad news: if you're not an aficionado of swallowing your lover's spunk, you are at a distinct disadvantage whilst deep-throating. Personally, I've never been a spitter. I just don't understand not swallowing, but if you don't enjoy swallowing, perhaps you and your lover can find some signal when he's ready to come, something, for the love of all things holy, that is not a tap on the head. Figure it out. You're adults.

Now the good news: if you are deep-throating when your man comes, it's super easy to swallow. It's just there and it just goes down. It's a no-brainer. In fact, the only trouble I've ever had with swallowing was with a shorter-dicked lover who would come and it would go up my nasal passages. Which was less fun. Take it from me; you don't want ejaculate shooting out your nose.

Anyone else, though, swallowing while deep-throating was as easy as swallowing hot jets of liquid pie. Just not as tasty. Which brings up a point: have your man eat pineapple. It really does work. Ginger is good; asparagus is not. Wine, scotch and bourbon can be good; beer is not. The jizz of soda drinkers tastes like the soda of choice. The jizz of vegetarians tastes like fields. Strawberries are nice, when in season.

In other words, taste-wise, planning is a good thing. On the other hand, if he's far enough down the back of your throat, you'll never even know.

 

10) Talk it up: Go ahead, afterward you're done doing the voodoo that you two do so well, have a blow-by-blow. Tell your lover what you were feeling. Let him lay cock-sucking laurels at your feet. Tell him what he did that worked—and didn't work—for you. Let him sing your praises. Hug and kiss. Fuck. Whatever. Get close and enjoy, but be sure to include talk as part of that closeness and drink some water.

 

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